May 1, 2008

I Wish

Yesterday I was cleaning out some of the folders on my computer and I came across “These Things I Wish For You”, written by Lee Pitts. I looked around and saw my kids playing video games and listening to their iPods and it made me wonder if they will ever experience a lot of the things mentioned. I really hope that they do.

These Things I Wish For You-- By Lee Pitts

We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse.

For my grandchildren, I'd like better. I'd really like for them to know about hand me down clothes and homemade ice cream and leftover meat loaf sandwiches. I really would.

I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated. I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the car. And I really hope nobody gives you a brand new car when you are sixteen. It will be good if at least one time you can see puppies born and your old dog put to sleep.

I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in. I hope you have to share a bedroom with your younger brother. And it's all right if you have to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when he wants to crawl under the covers with you because he's scared, I hope you let him. When you want to see a movie and your little brother wants to tag along, I hope you'll let him.

I hope you have to walk uphill to school with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely. On rainy days, when you have to catch a ride, I hope you don't ask your driver to drop you two blocks away so you won't be seen riding with someone as uncool as your Mom.

If you want a slingshot, I hope your Dad teaches you how to make one instead of buying one. I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books. When you learn to use computers, I hope you also learn to add and subtract in your head.

I hope you get teased by your friends when you have your first crush on a girl, and when you talk back to your mother that you learn what ivory soap tastes like.

May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on a stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole. I don't care if you try a beer once, but I hope you don't like it. And if a friend offers you dope or a joint, I hope you realize he is not your friend.

I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your Grandpa and go fishing with your Uncle. May you feel sorrow at a funeral and joy during the holidays. I hope your mother punishes you when you throw a baseball through your neighbor's window and that she hugs you and kisses you at Christmas time when you give her a plaster mold of your hand.

These things I wish for you - tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness. To me, it's the only way to appreciate life.

Written with a pen. Sealed with a kiss. I'm here for you. And if I die before you do, I'll go to heaven and wait for you.


Anonymous said...

What a lovely post Mary Ann - thank you.
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Simply Sentimental said...

What a touching have a wonderful way with words..

Mary Ann said...

Thanks. Simple sentimental, I would love to say that I wrote that, but I didn't. It was written by Lee Pitts.

AlasMyDear said...

oh my! this was such a lovely letter. it has so many of the things i would wish for my own offspring (when they come!), but i could never have articulated my desires so eloquently. i'm going to cut it out and keep it!

i'm so afraid with our sterile, computer-driven age, the next generation is going to grow up a bunch of lazy, waited-on, good-for-nothings. starting with many of these things i never even got to do myself!

GrayEyedScorpio said...

A great reminder about what's important, and how the most important lessons are learned.

SweetB said...

Thank you so much! I would like to copy that and put it on my blog. I have experience every one of those things and its so true that we become kinder people when disappointment and waiting come our way.

Mary Ann said...

sweetb - feel free to copy it for your blog. Please credit Lee Pitts as the author. I too have experienced almost all of those things too.